Came through the Spurs youth system and made a two first team appearances, before going out on loan to Motherwell in Scotland.
An injury just after his games in the first team in the League Cup against Brentford in 1998 hampered his progress and a change in manager, with George Graham coming in, saw his chances diminish and he left to join Barnet in 2001.
Relegation to the Conference was a blow, but he always got good reviews and the fans thought he was capable of playing at a higher level.
When Southend came in for him as a Third Division side, he fitted into their midfield and has been a regular in their two promotion winning sides to take them into the Championship. However, after two seasons in that division, they suffered a relegation to League One and a failure to go up at the first attempt coincided with Gower's contract ending and having turned down a new deal with the Shrimpers, he chose to move to Swansea City, who were one of the teams promoted to the Championship, in June 2008.